DEALING WITH LOSS

Grief is the process we go through over losing that which we value. The depth of your grief is directly proportional to the amount of your self-worth that is invested in that which is lost.

So, losing a mate, or a job, or losing your health, or a child leaving home, or moving to a new city or new house, brings the experience of grief.

Few things are as common to our lives, yet handled so poorly as grief; primarily because our culture teaches DENIAL as the method of choice in dealing with loss. "Don't cry out loud, just keep it inside and learn out to hide your feelings" was the way the classic song from '79 said it.

We can and do heal from our losses, big and small, but never until we get past denial. People in therapy often discover that unfinished grief work is the underlying cause of their life's dysfunction. It might be the same for you.